Hey, besties! Welcome to this week’s edition of Paige’s Page! This week love is in the air, and we are doing another edition on relationships! I am really scared for all of you honestly because you are coming to little ol’ single me for relationship advice, but I have a lot to say about these fantastic questions and I am so excited to get into them!
Hi, Paige! Where are the best spots for a first date around campus?
Hey, bestie! This is such a cute question! I have never been on a date at Muhlenberg, however, if I was to this is what I would want to do. I love coffee, so a Java Joe or Jay’s Local date is right up my alley. I think that grabbing coffee and going for a walk is so sweet and very fun. Walking around campus a bunch of times or even a trip to the Rose Gardens would be so cute. I also really love the Farmer’s Market. A trip down the street to the Amish cheese counter can earn (almost) anyone a place in my heart. I’m dying to explore the Lehigh Valley. Making a list and checking things off together is a great way to try new things and get out of your comfort zone. Have fun and happy dating.
How do I handle things moving slower than I’m used to with a potential relationship?
Hey, bestie! This is so normal. Relationships are really complicated because they require two people to agree on a lot of really complicated things. Many people, especially at this time in our lives, want to be independent and live life on their own terms without having to ask for permission or forgiveness. With that being said, trying to start a relationship is not easy because no one really knows what they want. Clear communication about needs and expectations needs to happen pretty early on in order to not be disappointed or disappoint the person you care about. Slow is a good thing. Protecting your heart is so important to keep yourself safe. However, be vulnerable with them; make them feel wanted and like you enjoy your time around them, but don’t make them feel uncomfortable or pressured to be in a relationship with you. Communicating will save both of you from a world of hurt later on.
What do I do if I like a girl but I asked her to go formal with me but only as a friend?
Hi, bestie! Happy formal season! You have really put yourself in a tough spot. I think there are two ways you can approach this. First, is to go as her friend, have the most fun and amazing time and maybe afterward talk about reevaluating your relationship. Clear communication is always important. Your second option is to talk to her before formal, communicate your feelings and see what happens. If she cares about you as your friend, she will likely still want to go with you as a way to spend time with you even if those feelings may not be reciprocated. If you decide that neither of these options suits you, that’s okay. Go as friends, and maybe talk about it when you are ready and feel comfortable. Putting yourself out there is so scary and you are so brave to want to. Personally, I have been really scared to put myself out there like that so just know that you are doing something that takes a lot of courage and that will not go unnoticed. The worst thing that can happen is that feelings aren’t reciprocated and you have to move on (refer to Paige’s Page second edition question about the ick, I swear, it will help). Don’t forget it is your formal, have so much fun!
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